Brilliant. You’ve found your way here, you may be wondering if this is the right place for you.
- Many of my personal clients are women, sometimes men, in or approaching their mid-life years. They want to show up and be seen in their lives. They wish they were good enough and at least as good as other people think they are.
- It might be that you’re a qualified coach, a skilled therapist or a certified counsellor looking for new ways to develop or support yourself, your clients or your practice.
- Other clients are organisations wanting to develop their best staff, support innovation and creativity, reward authenticity, to deliver their services sustainably.
My personal clients are often feeling less certain on the inside than they look on the outside. You may be in a leadership or management position, making decisions on a daily basis, maybe running your own businesses. On the outside people possibly look at you as already being successful in your role. On the inside you live with doubt and uncertainty.
You may have heard of the Impostor Syndrome or the Imposter Phenomenon…. but the chances are that when you think of yourself you simply wish you were as good as other people seem to think you are.
You know you’ve worked hard, you can see you’ve achieved many good things, yet there’s a nagging doubt – you’re not as good as you could be, maybe not as good as you should be and, much as it might be a relief in some ways, you really don’t want to be found out.
You’re definitely looking for something more real, more authentic, letting the real you show up – if only you knew who that person was or could find the courage to believe that, as yourself, you are good enough.
At the same time you may also be juggling new caring responsibilities, looking for a better work-life balance, wanting to create more space or simplicity as you start the next phase of your life – yet another way for you to feel stretched or not quite living up to the challenge.
You probably have questions, I might have answers – though the truth is I’m more committed to helping you to explore what’s right for you, whatever that means… creating a plan, finding a meaning, sharing a vision.
Maybe it’s time to ditch the gremlins of self-doubt and insecurity, get rid of old habits that don’t help you any more, to stand up and be seen for who you are.
For some people this is about learning the skills of confident thinking and confident living, bringing their true selves to the many aspects of their life and work. For others it’s about being free of the worry and doubt that they are an imposter…
Often it involves learning how to accept ourselves more fully, to treat ourselves as kindly as we would treat our friends, to believe in our own potential with as much energy as we would invest in our life.
Many people are inspired by the work of Brené Brown, her TED talks and her books… If you want to explore what vulnerability and courage mean for you, if you’re thinking of showing up in the arena of your life and shining your light, sharing your thoughts, this might be the right time to find a community and get some support.
If you’d like to explore your ideas, see what might be possible, do send me an email so we can set a time to talk and discuss what might work for you!
Many coaches, counsellors and therapists are supporting people who are struggling with feelings of not being good enough. Sometimes this experience is also felt very personally by the coach/counsellor/therapist. This feeling of not being good enough often relates to shame and worthiness – we can feel we’re not as good as we think we should be, sometimes we fear we’re not as good as others think we should be. Brené Brown’s research into shame and vulnerability reveals how universal these experiences of shame are and how paralysing they can be. After over 16 years of research she has written about the differences between people who felt they were worthy of love and belonging and those who, excluded or alone, felt they had to hide or pretend in order to be accepted.
Detailed analysis of years of data reveals that the people who feel wholehearted or unworthy have both experienced similar levels of challenges, falls and trials in their lives. What distinguishes these two groups are 10 practices that are regularly part of the lives of people whom she describes as the wholehearted.
Brené Brown has created The Daring Way™(see more details here) and as a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator – Candidate, I offer workshops to explore the principles of wholehearted living and worthiness based on her books, particularly Daring Greatly and Rising Strong.